Basketball Is Psychology XXXI
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We need energy to perform at our best.
If you don’t get enough sleep, you won’t have enough energy to play as well as you can.
If you don’t eat enough, you won’t have enough energy to play as well as you are capable of playing.
But there is another valuable source of energy that often goes unexamined: people.
Drains and Gains
Do the people on your team leave you feeling energized or do they make you feel drained?
In his book People Fuel, Psychologist Dr. John Townsend termed the two types of people energy drains or gains.
Just one interaction with an energy drain can leave us feeling exhausted. We dread being around these people because they suck the life out of a room, and they drain out all the energy.
There’s nothing better than being around people who leave us feeling energized. We look forward to being around them because we leave every interaction feeling more passionate, motivated, encouraged, and empowered; these are energy gains.
What’s the difference between people who are gains and drains?
Leadership researcher at the University of Michigan, Kim Cameron found the differences between people who drain our energy and people who add to our energy:
Brag, promote, and talk about themselves
Spend a lot of time talking about themselves
Focus on the negative
Complain about problems
Are quick to criticize others when things go wrong
Take responsibility and follow through with what they say
Are upbeat and optimistic
Look for solutions instead of complaining about problems
Acknowledge others’ contributions
Help people around them
Essentially, gains are team players while drains are self-centered.